When we all moved to America years ago not only were we reuniting with my brother and his family we were also reuniting with my cousins who lived in Canada 13 years prior to our arrival. My cousin and her daughter are two women who had and still have huge influence on me.  They both played a big part in my life in our first and most difficult immigration years. They might not remember everything but it was the two of them who suggested I go to college right away.   It was them who suggested my husband get  his engineering degree verified  and it was them who even told me that I needed to shave my legs (yes I am admitting this publicly).

This passed weekend we went to visit my cousins in Toronto. In the early years, right after we got our green cards,  we tried to visit each other at least twice a year, but for the last several years,  life took over and we did not see them for almost 3 years.  We finally had a chance to sit down and reminisce about the past and what I found out was quite interesting. Apparently my cousin’s daughter-  my 2nd cousin (we are only 5 years apart) told me that as much as she and her mother influenced me, I influenced her when we were both children growing up in the USSR.

What was also  interesting was that her childhood memory of Russia is of me explaining to her what S-E-X is all about it  (I was shocked – what did I know about S-E-x at the age of 10?) and she also told that my explanation had her traumatized for life. Don’t feel too sorry for her she is happily married with 2 kids, which means that she at least had S-E-X twice.

We laughed and we cried and reminisced some more… she was only 7 years old when she left and moved to Canada and the next time I saw her she was almost 20 years old. We were not sure if we will find anything in common, but now over 20 years later we still have the fondest memories of our childhood and it does not matter who influenced who and where.  The truth is the best thing we ever did was to get  to know each other again and that coming to America gave us this  opportunity to re-unite.

influenced by each other many, many years later......

Who influenced you in life and how? I would love to hear your stories.


About Ariana

I came to USA about 20 years from former USSR. I am an American Citizen with a heavy Russian Accent. My two boys always make fun of my English. I love to write, I usually do it for me, but if you would like to stop and leave a comment it would be great! I ā€˜d love to share with you my American World with the hint of my Russian Personality.
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7 Responses to Influence.

  1. Leah says:

    Beautiful post, as always. And yes, I’d say you clearly did something right in your explanation of S-E-X! Too cute! My paternal grandmother and material grandfather have both influenced me. So much so that I want to write my grandfather’s life story. He was an incredible brave man who left Germany as a young boy when the Nazis took power. His story is fascinating and he came to America for a better life and never looked back.

  2. What beautiful ladies you all are!
    I would have to say my mother has had the most influence over me. She has been gone now for 10 years but even so I think of her when I need to make a decision. I wonder what she would do or think of the situation and it always influences how I act.

  3. Thank you Gretchen, that picture was taken 9 years ago at the party for my oldest son barmitvah, we don’t look like this anymore. I’m sorry about your loss, this is how I feel about my grandmother Pearl. She was an amazing women, who survived 2 wars, jewish pogroms, socialism, communism and yet was always smiling and loved life. She passed away one month after my first son was born and it felt like she was leaving this world to make room for him. I miss her every day.

  4. Hello Ariana. This is my first visit to your blog and I am enjoying it very much. I really liked hearing this story of you and your cousins. I can not imagine leaving my home country and starting over in a new country! I admire that so much. As for people who have influenced me, I would have to say there are too many to name just one. I always admire people who live their lives as true to themselves and that influences me to do the same.

    Thank you for visiting Thinking in my Head today, and leaving such a thoughtful comment.

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