Recently our distant friends celebrated their 25th wedding anniversary by renewing their vows. They went to Mexico and had a beautiful, private ceremony with their seventeen year-old daughter as a flower girl, then..... just to make us all jealous they put their gorgeous pictures on Facebook. With their permission I am posting few of them.
Looking through their photos I thought to myself: "what a great idea, my 25th wedding anniversary is approaching in less than 2 years, this would be a great opportunity for us to do something similar". With that in mind I went to my husband (he is a romantic in our union, not me. Afterall it was he, who surprised me on our 15th wedding anniversary with our first trip to Paris. Later he was presented with a "Husband of the year!" award.)Me: Honey, do you remember N and S? Guess what they did? They just renewed they vows for their 25th wedding anniversary. Isn't this a great idea? We could do the same! Him: Hmmmmm, I did not break any vows why should I renew them? Me: Oh, it's just an impression we don't have to renew them we can just get married again! Oh, it's so romantic and beautiful and we can go to any place on earth to do that and it will be just us and the kids, and look at their gorgeous pictures....
I managed to deliver my monologue within seconds (I did not want to lose him, being married for 23 years, I understand all about a husband's attention span:)) . The more I talked about it, the more excited I got and the less interest I saw in him. Knowing how incredibly passionate I am ( I will not mention the few broken plates during our previous misunderstandings), he said: "We are already married, we don't need to get married again. Let's think about it and check around to see if there are any other options we can explore, we have all the time in the world to plan anything we want, right!"Me: What do you we/you want?(sarcasm in my voice)
Him: I want whatever you want... (very patiently)
Me: ...but you know what I want...(eyes rolling)
Him: Is there anything else you might want?
Clearly, our conversation wasn't going anywhere, I had nothing to do but to contact N and find out how did she do it, how did she manage to put this event together. This was her response : "Ha, ha I had to prepare him for a year and then told him that the only thing he has to do is to show up:)))"
Great news for me - I have more than a year to work on my significant other.
Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.