It has been a very slow beginning of the year, at least in my blogging world. While I get bombarded with posts from my blogger- fellows every single day, I can’t produce anything that’s worth sharing with anyone.
I am lost and have no idea what to write about, my brain is scattered all over the place and unfortunately I can’t concentrate on anything, but then I read this article:
…And the bulb went on in my head:
I got married at the age of 20; some of my girlfriends did it right after high school. It was a saying back in the USSR that if you are not married by the time you are 20 years old you are an old mate. So we all rushed, rushed into marriage. I remember that when we were leaving for the USA, one of my closest friends was 23 years old and not even dating anyone-I was terrified for her, I felt like I shouldn’t be abandoning her without helping her find the “right” man. She phoned me here 2 years later to let me know that she is marrying someone 5 year her junior, but she just had to do it, otherwise she will end up alone. Back then it was unheard of , but little did I know she was the one who started the ” cougar” trend. She is still happily married to her young (not so much anymore) husband of 18 years.
Being married back then meant forever! Nobody dated for years, you saw each other – you liked each other – three months later you were husband and wife. All the young couples would have to live with their parents (the situation with living spaces was tough)/ Imagine a 1/2 bedroom apartment with 2, sometimes 3 families living together. No one could even think about divorce, because no one had anywhere to go. I know it’s hard to explain, but people stuck together for better or for worse…. The word “divorce“ equaled the word “ death“, at least in my mom’s world. Of course people got divorces, but they were very, very rare.
….. and then we came here to find out that divorce rate in US is 50% – what!? Are you kidding me, why even get married, but to get divorced at the age of 99 is a bit too much. Do you think it’s justifiable of him to hold a grudge against something that happened 60 years ago or is it his Italian temper acting up?